Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Help for Pornography Addictions

Here is the problem: "Pornography consumers are your parents, professors, husbands, pastors, colleagues, children, and friends; and some modern pornographic offerings make Hustler layouts look like Norman Rockwell spreads in The Saturday Evening Post. Jerry Ropelato of Top Ten Reviews notes that 40 million US adults regularly view pornographic websites. Twenty percent of men admit to viewing pornographic materials at work, 53 percent of Promise Keepers (members of the prominent Christian men’s organization) view online pornography on a weekly basis, and 37 percent of Christian pastors identify pornography as a current struggle. Far from being immune, women account for as much as one-third of all pornographic consumption; and children are some of the heaviest users online. The average child is 11 years old at the time of his or her first exposure. Twenty percent of all children have been sexually solicited on the web; more than 90 percent of 8 to 16-year-olds have viewed pornography online, and 80 percent of 15 to 17-year-olds have had multiple exposures to hardcore pornography." http://www.salvomag.com/new/articles/salvo2/2coleman.php

This is destroying marriages, congregations, our society, etc. 37 percent of Christian pastors struggle with this! I don't know if that translates exactly to 37 percent of Confessional Lutheran pastors or not, but I see no reason that it wouldn't be that or higher. Whether a pastor or not, the most likely path to recovery is therapy but therapy is embarrassing and the pastor might fear the loss of his job, especially if he has been looking at porn at church or doing worse things. This is part of the struggle.

I don't have easy answers. In fact, other than the standard answers, go to confession, admit it to someone, discipline yourself with fasting and prayer, deny yourself opportunities, etc, I don't have any. What I want is a book. I ordered two this morning off of Amazon. Because a pastor can have a book for others, for his members, that he himself can also read and benefit from. Plus I like books. So what book can give to people who come to me and are struggling with these sorts of sins?

When I have known men who were willing to and eager for therapy and support groups, I've had trouble finding groups that fit well in Ft. Wayne. Is anyone familiar with sex addicts anonymous, etc? Is there any fear that such groups might advocate homosexuality as good or advocate divorce. etc ?

I'll let you know what I think of the books when they arrive. CPH, btw, doesn't appear to have anything.


  1. Don't know of any books, but John Kleinig gave a very good interview about the topic on Issues Etc. on January 31st of this year. Worth making CD's of it and distributing it.

  2. @Music*aL: Just a minor correction. The original air date was actually September 21st.

    Here is a link to access Kleinig's Issues Etc. segments. The one on pornography is near the top.


  3. Something from CPH is long overdue. The LCMS needs to address this issue. So far the only interest on the part of the Synod is LLL, but that could have been as much for a young men's ministry as for addressing the issue of pornography and sex. The best books I've found are the Every Man's/ Every Young Man's Series from our friends out at Saddleback Church. The theology's not as bad as you might fear, but it's definitely not what it needs to be. If your books are better please share the titles.

  4. I've found the former porn actress turned Christian, Shelley Lubben, to be a great help in breaking porn's hold on me.


    "Sex-packed porn films featuring hot dirty blondes whose man-eating eyes say, “I want you,” are the greatest illusion on earth. Trust me, I know. I hustled for eight years in strip clubs and whorehouses, manhandling my way to the Big Top, where I was promised fame, fortune and glamour. I was 24 years old when I entered the world of porn.

    I put on a good show but I never liked performing tricks in the sex circus and preferred spending time with Jack Daniels rather than the male performers I was paid to fake it with. That’s right, none of us hot blondes enjoy making porn. In fact, we hate it. We hate spreading our legs for sexually diseased men. We hate being degraded with their foul smells and sweaty bodies. Some women hate it so much that I would hear them vomiting in the bathroom between scenes. I would find others outside, smoking endless chains of Marlboro Lights…"

  5. Rev. Fisk just posted an extremely helpful video on pornography:



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