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Wednesday, October 3, 2012
A Worker-Priest Responds
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| Chaplain Dean Kavouras |
Time management is no problem for two reasons. When you are self employed, especially when engaged in sales, your schedule is flexible. We had the good fortune of making a liveable wage in less than half of a normal work week. Besides this many pastors don't use their time wisely. As far as I can tell a pastor's duties are as limited as they are important: prepare for and celebrate the Mass, catechize, hear confessions (not very time consuming these days), visit sick and shut in members. These last two duties, however, are not the exclusive domain of the pastor. A well trained, qualified deacon (not just a warm and willing body) who is locally ordained for that purpose can do it. While there may have been a need for a professional clergy when parishes were large, and prosperity was flowing, today we must recognize that confessional churches are small and getting smaller. Why would they have a full time pastor for the limited duties needed? We need to break free from our mental mold and deal with reality. I recognize it is hard. But try if you will.
Further, I suspect that if we survey all of Christendom over the last 2,000 years, we might find that part time clergy are the rule, rather than the exception. We would probably find pastors who spent a good part of their day growing their own plot of food, farming, tending animals, and going to market in order to live. And, think of the pastors today who are full time clergy, but only by the grace of their wives who take on the double burden of bearing children and providing for the household. If a wife is willing and able I see no problem with it, but if she is not willing or able, or only haltingly so, then the pastor needs to man up. There is no theological requirement for a full time, professional clergy. Indeed I believe that I have accomplished as much, if not more, than others on a part time basis because I never got involved in the busy work. Almost everything I do is pure ministry. We have eliminated, of necessity perhaps, all busy work in our parish. We have one meeting every two months with the Board of Admin. We celebrate Mass every Sunday and hold a bible class and SS preceding the Mass. I do my preparation, personal studies, visit the sick and shut ins, and provide some pastoral counseling, as well as carry out my chaplain functions. We also sold our building two years ago, it was drowning us, and now we rent from a sister congregation, but maintain two very separate congregations in the same building.
As for ups and downs? In my case it is mostly ups. The money is good, the independence is better, the wide range of people I meet and things I get to see as I consult with business owners, learn about their businesses, and counsel them on their collection needs is vast and stimulating beyond what one would imagine. The switching back and forth from one reality to another took a little getting used to, but I find it happily satisfying. When one mistress gets trying, I fly to the other. But I love them both and serve them both. I consider them both gifts from God, both as fields of service. If there is a down side it is that some people don't consider you legitimate if you are less than full time (especially if you own a collection agency, and are a coin dealer). I don't like to create confusion in people's minds but that is their problem, now isn't it? I have never had that problem personally because I kept my two worlds separate, purposely so. I never talk about my business ventures to the church, not ever. It's none of their business.
Cleveland, being a large city, means that I don't run into members in my business dealings very often. As for types of employment that could muddy the waters. If you live in a small town, and end up dealing with your members as customers, especially if it is what some wrongly call "menial" employment, it could cause some confusion in people's minds. But if dealt with properly that goes away and there is no such thing as menial labor if done with honor.
But I have a suggestion for pastors needing extra income, viz., that you consider self employment, and especially sales. Sales is an art and a science that can be learned and acquired just like any other skill. It pays very well. With that ability a person can make an above average income, in less than average time, and work in whatever field he enjoys. If you like men's clothes, welding supplies, corporate jets or silk flowers you can turn selling those things into you own business. There are also other professions and skills which people might possess: construction trades, accounting, law, medical professions, computer programmer etc. Use them. What's wrong with being a part time plumber and part time pastor? Or practicing law or accounting on a limited basis to supplement your low pastoral income? Again, this takes a re-think on our part, and on the part of our people.
Also as Fr. Beane mentioned, being out there leads to some interesting discussions. I have lost track of the number of people I have counseled and prayed for in my business dealings because of my dual vocation. People open up to us. Also, people can read you in the business world, they can perceive if you are a man of integrity, and pastors excel in that area.
Lastly, I would suggest that since confessional churches are magnet churches, and not neighborhood phenomena, that two confessional churches would do well to share buildings, two separate parishes
housed under one roof. Find someone you can live with, and do it. Why do we maintain buildings that are bleeding us to death? Sell one, make the other sound, if you can find reasonable people of like mind.
Monday, September 24, 2012
Why?
By Larry Beane
As a postscript to Fr. Curtis's advice on advice, I would like to offer some of my own.
Actually, I don't really have advice so much as some questions. In this video, two of my brother pastors are giving the same advice that I would also give a new pastor (and I frequently do). In no way am I questioning their wisdom. Like I said, I agree with this advice in general - which is what a YouTube video is: general advice. And I believe the only way to keep a man in the ministry - a man who has devoted four years of his life, possibly his family's life, four years of seminary and church resources, financial and otherwise, to train for the holy ministry - is to really be careful about making changes in the parish. I think most of us in the ministry have seen and experienced the heartbreak of classmates and friends, brothers in the office, who have quit or been run out of their parishes by trying to change something. And so, to new graduates, we all counsel "festina lente" - make haste slowly - especially in matters of worship. It is such universal advice as to be cliche.
In the video, the second pastor speaks of things that will make the new pastor "uncomfortable." I think he has hit on something very profound. Pastors - especially new pastors - can expect "discomfort." He doesn't mean that the temperature might be too high in his study or that his shoes don't fit well any more. Rather, he is referring to things that will cause a pastor spiritual discomfort, discomfort in his conscience, in what he knows is right, in his being hamstrung from leading and teaching what he himself has been led and taught to do. For that is what many of our seminary graduates find when they are sent forth to their primary congregations. In some cases, these men will be shocked and scandalized by what they will find.
In spite of the fact that, as Fr. Duddleswell pointed out from the BBC series "Bless Me, Father," it is an "ugly Protestant word," I am going to ask: "Why?" Why are pastors uncomfortable in theology and practice, and perhaps must remain so for years, decades, or even their entire ministries? Why?
Why do we teach men in seminary that we in the LCMS practice closed communion - not because it is policy, not because it is in the handbook, not because some bureaucrat or convention (popes and councils) have decreed it by parliamentary fiat - but because it is the right and proper thing to do, the biblical thing to do, the Christian thing to do - only to then tell these men to act immorally, contrary to the Bible, and against what the church has always done - once they get into a real parish?
This is the very definition of dissonance.
Why do we pledge to norm our teaching by the Book of Concord, which unambiguously confesses against infrequent communion, and is actually quite clear that the Holy Sacrament is to be offered at least weekly - only to pull the stilts out from a man and encourage him to violate the confessions (at least for a spell) that he has sworn to uphold as soon as he actually gets a call?
Why do we train seminarians meticulously in the theology and practice of the liturgy only to tell them to yield to their congregation's wishes (even if it is just for a while) to abolish it if that is what they encounter when they leave the seminary's bosom?
In any other context, we encourage people to keep their vows - even if it is unpopular. We never counsel a seminarian or newly minted pastor to cheat on his wife if that's what is going on in his parish (at least for the time being), until he has "earned their trust," until he has led Bible studies, preached sermons, and distributed CPH tracts on marital fidelity for a period of months or years.
We don't encourage pastors to ignore the commandments the way we encourage them to ignore entire articles of the Augsburg Confession (at least until enough catechesis has happened).
Why do we educate our pastors about the importance of these matters only to tell them they are not actually so important to actually do them when they actually get a call - in the interest of not being a "bull in the china shop" or not being "winsome" or some such?
Again, I am not encouraging anyone to be a "bull in the china shop." The situation is what it is. If you go into your first call and immediately institute every-Sunday Eucharist, abolish non-liturgical worship, or close down the "y'all come" communion statement, there is a right good chance you will swiftly be CRM, unemployed, or maybe even divorced. You might be moving back in with your parents and looking for a fast-food restaurant that is interested in hiring M.Div.'s who washed out of the pastoral ministry.
But again, I am asking "why" this is.
I think the answer is this: we don't believe Walther.
Yes, that's it. And I'm not a particularly big fan of Walther.
But we give grandiloquent lip service to Wather's Law and Gospel. We use the very words as almost a mystical incantation, even pronouncing it in some cases as "Lawn Gospel". It is as Lutheran as brats and beer. But here is the problem: if a congregation (or a subset of members) refuses to accept a pastor's instruction and exercise of pastoral shepherding - be it for closed communion, frequent communion, or liturgical worship - they are sinning. It may well be a case of a small faction of the congregation that is leading the charge against "the new guy" who wants to "change" how "we've always done things." Not only are such parishioners sinning by endorsing unbiblical practices and/or violating their own promises to abide by the Lutheran confessions, but they are adding rebellion against authority and impenitence to the mix. And if things get ugly - as they often do in these situations - rumors and attacks on reputations, gossip and slander may start flying around the parish.
And so we tell the pastor just to sidestep the whole thing, go along to get along. Back up ten yards and punt. Hopefully, you will get the ball back in the fourth quarter (i.e. when you are nearing retirement and the antagonists in your parish have all gone to their eternal reward).
We do not counsel the pastor to call the sinners to repentance. We do not encourage the pastor to - in Walther's words - give "not one drop" of the Gospel to the impenitent. In fact, we tell him to do the polar opposite: to yield to the sinner. It's just easier. It's less trouble. The paychecks keep coming. The seminary doesn't have egg on its face. It keeps the DP off your case. And you get to look "pastoral" and "wise" in not confronting the sinner.
But I want to ask again, "Why?" Why do we ignore Law and Gospel in this case?
And to that question, I think the answer may be that we believe Walther a little too much. Poor C.F.W. just can't get a break!
I think much of the problem is our Waltherian polity. Pastors are not just beholden to, but dependent upon, the very people whom he is expected to call to repentance. It is not unusual for the biggest donors to be the most demanding, the loudest and pushiest of those who object to things like liturgical worship, closed communion, and weekly Eucharist. Often the very people leading the charge to compel the pastor to tolerate sin are the ones the pastor can ill afford to tick off. The sheep corral the shepherds. Hebrews 13:17 is turned on its head. The pastor is a hireling.
Moreover, the pastor is caught between the pincers of the congregation and the district office. In our current polity, the District President wields considerable power. It may be apocryphal, but I've heard a quote attributed to Dr. William Weinrich that our district presidents today enjoy powers that Roman Catholic bishops can only covet. If a pastor causes headaches for his DP, the DP can in turn blackball the pastor - even if only informally, by dropping a name or raising an eyebrow.
And so new pastors are told from every source imaginable: the congregation, the district president, the seminary, and yes even from Gottesdienst editors - make changes "slowly" - a pace that might even be so slow as to not make them at all. Gospel reductionism covers a multitude of antinomianism.
But woe to you, Pastor, if you do not heed this advice even if you heed your conscience. You will very likely be eaten for lunch. Your reputation may be trashed, you might lose your salary, your district president may put you under restriction, your former professors may pretend you don't exist, your colleagues in the ministry may click their tongues when they talk about you, and you might even find yourself depressed and on psychotropic drugs. And you would have plenty of company.
And like the poor vicars who are compelled against their consciences to speak the Words of Institution over bread and wine, nobody in the seminary or the ministerium or the synod bureaucracy will help you. In their defense, they cannot. Our polity leaves pastors (and those training to be pastors) twisting in the wind.
In fairness, there is not much anyone can do other than mourn the loss of our friends while secretly thanking God that it isn't us that has been devoured - at least this time. This is our dirty little secret. I don't have any answers nor any advice of my own other than to reiterate our Lord's pastoral advice to the apostles to be "wise as serpents and as innocent as doves" (Matt 10:16) and St. Paul's pastoral advice to St. Timothy: "No longer drink only water, but use a little wine" (1 Tim 5:23). The former advice is paradoxically theological, while the latter is therapeutically practical - even as both are biblical.
And as Fr. Curtis says, your mileage may vary.
Thursday, July 5, 2012
Checklists in the Ministry
Consider for example packing lists, grocery lists, recipes. These are just checklists. Now I could do all of these things without, but when I do I usually forget something. And that's what we're trying to avoid. We're trying to avoid missing something. We don't want to have to reinvent the wheel every time. So we make lists of what needs to be done.
There are some things that we do as pastors that can benefit from a checklist. This is one of the points behind Fr. Curtis's post on Concerning Pulpit Supply. Another of these things is funerals.
Funerals require a lot of components. And this can be difficult to remember because you can't always plan for when they are coming. A well-made checklist can relieve you of the stress that comes with the thought: I hope I'm not forgetting anything. So here is a checklist that Fr. Christopher Seifferlein has made for funerals.
Part of his checklist includes what readings to use with the family at different stages and what to focus on. Having prefabbed sermon outlines like this can be very helpful for when you are on your way to visit the grieving family and you're thinking to yourself: "Um, what do I say? What am I going to talk about?" The LSB Agenda and the Pastoral Care Companion help a lot, but they don't do it all. You still have times when you're expected to say something that isn't from the book. So spend a few minutes now going through a few of the suggested texts for "At the Visitation," "For Those In Grief," etc, and put together a short outline of what you say when you visit them. (I have done this for hospital visits. I have something I do for my first visit, second, and then returning home, something for pre-surgery and post-surgery, etc. I don't always stick to it because I also use the propers for the week. But having it there takes the pressure off in case I get a midnight call or something.)
Anyway here is the list:
- Pray for the deceased and for the family
- Pull File and/or Church Records
- Determine age of deceased: ____
- Arrange the ringing of the church bell
- Call church organist to determine availability
- Determine time and date of funeral home meeting: ________________
- Readings & Prayer-Discuss the theological purpose of the funeral
- Determine the time and date of service:____________
- Determine organist arrangements
- Discuss placement of casket during visitation (narthex or at the front of the nave)
- Determine how many pews to reserve on each side of church.
- Explain Funeral Pall its use symbolism, request assistance from pall bearers if so desired
- Determine cemetery where burial will take place
- Discuss the families wishes regarding the desire to stay by the cemetery until the casket is lowered.
- Request Favorite Hymn & Reading Selections from Family
- Determine meal and menu arrangements. Give name/# of individual to call for luncheon to funeral director
- Determine the number of people expected for the service: ____
- Determine the number of people expected for the luncheon: ____
- Call Elders/arrange Elder(s) to assist with funeral
- Call Head of Luncheon Committee (Carol Navis)
- Call Cemetery Sexton (Bob Navis)
- Call janitor and arrange for church to be cleaned before and after the service
- Determine Readings
- Determine Hymns
- Call and relate service information to organist
- Complete Bulletin
- Liturgy Preparation
- Sermon Preparation
- Prepare Wake Readings/Prayer-Theme: “Jesus In Remembrance of Me,” or “Upper Room.”
- Prepare Pre-Service Readings/Prayer-Mary/Martha-Sustained by Jesus Words
- Meet with elder to go through the service: ringing of the bell at the beginning of the service, ringing of the bell at the end of the service
- Meet with organist to go through the service including the execution of the prelude/postlude
- Meet with Funeral Director to go through the service including placement of the casket, funeral pall
- Get out the funeral pall
- Put Death Date in Computer
- Put dates on computer to call the deceased
- Fold up funeral pall
- Put Funeral on Official Acts of the next Council Meeting
Use this as a starting point. Not every place is the same, so you will have to adjust it for your circumstances. But it's a great start. And the likely hood of you forgetting something, will be smaller.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Tricking Yourself To Be Disciplined
Some people have the discipline to focus their energies on getting things done with relative ease. They don’t get side tracked easily, or find themselves wandering down an unexplored rabbit hole that leads to no where after two hours. It seems almost innate. I know it’s not, but some folks seem to have an easier time with this than others.
I’m not one of these people. I have to trick myself to be disciplined. I have to put my alarm clock on the other side of the room so that I’ll actually get out of bed to shut it off. I have schedule my prayers as daily service just to ensure that I do it. I have to write my sermon rough draft longhand just to overcome my perfectionist tendencies to procrastinate. (I’m an only child--so think first-born tendencies on steroids). Nothing that I do just comes about without planning it or tricking myself into doing it. It’s really annoying but it’s the only way I can get stuff done.
So if you find that you have similar difficulties, here’s a couple of resources that I found immensely helpful on getting things done.
First, the book Getting Things Done by David Allen. Reading this book made me feel like Mel Gibson in Braveheart: “FREEEEEDOMMMMM.” GTD helps put everything into perspective and tells you why there are things on the To Do list that never get off. There are two main premises to his book.
The first premise is to get everything out of your head and down on paper so that you can free up your brain for real thinking. Since more and more of our work is brain work not physical work, we need to a method for keeping it all straight. Starting, maintaining, and finishing multiple projects at a time can overload your brain and make you feel like completely overwhelmed. But with the GTD method you get that out of your head so that you can devote your brain to thinking that will actually get things done instead of spinning your wheels. But it also let you enjoy your days off because you know that you’re not forgetting anything because it’s all written down in the GTD format.
The second premise is that when you are making Task/To Do lists, you must do enough thinking to write down what the action is. Don’t write down the abstract, overarching project, but write down the very next thing you must do to get you one step closer to getting it done. So, for example, if I had to get an oil change for my car, I wouldn’t write down “Get oil change for Accord.” I would write “Call dealership to make Friday appointment for Accord’s oil change.” The difference between the two is that I’ll look at a Task List with “Get oil change for Accord” on it and think: “I don’t have time to do that now.” And so I won’t move any closer to getting it done. But if I see “Call dealership . . . .” I’ll think to myself, “Oh, I’ve got a minute that I can do that while I drive to my next homebound visit. You must do just enough thinking to write down the next action to DO. I know it seems silly, but it’s immensely helpful.
Here’s the Getting Things Done website for more information (http://www.davidco.com/).
The other resource is helpful in managing bigger blocks of time. If you’ve ever gone home, thinking “what did spend all day doing?” This is for you. The resource is called The Pomodoro Technique (http://www.pomodorotechnique.com). Here’s how it works.
Look at your day to identify your available time. Determine how many 25-minute time blocks ("pomodoros") will fit in the time. Then assign work to those blocks. No single task can take more than 3-5 pomodoros. (If it does, you need to break the task into subtasks.) Between most pomodoros plan a short 2-3 minute break. Every few hours plan a longer break. Then during the day, time every pomodoro with a timer. Record the work, including changes to your plan, plus any problems keeping focused on the task for the full 25 minutes.
I know it sounds silly and really simple but it’s really helpful. It tricks you into getting things done. And this why: It provides a physical support structure that helps you execute several crucial mental processes: making a commitment, resisting interruptions, focusing on finishing, and monitoring progress.
Setting the timer helps you make the commitment to the work. You write down what you'll do during the pomodoro, and then you turn on the timer. That simple existential action embodies your choice to commit.
The running timer inoculates you against interruptions, because you are supposed to stop the timer if you stop work. That makes the choice to stop--to be interrupted--an active, conscious choice instead of a passive reaction. Plus, you know that you will have a short break soon, when you can deal with the interruption. All this motivates you to resist interruptions.
The running timer also helps you focus on achieving the goal. The mini-deadline every 25 minutes is a natural incentive to finish. You are more aware of how much time you are taking, and you are motivated to beat the clock, if you can.
Taking a short break to record what you did and clear your head helps you monitor the work and consider whether or not you are making the best use of your time. You become much more aware of how long a task is taking, and can stop yourself from going down the slippery slope, using up all your discretionary time for email or some other low-value task. The small breaks give you a chance to adjust your plan to meet the realities of the work.
Both these methods help you to be disciplined but offers some flexibility at the same time. It’s the best of both worlds for pastor types because sometimes you don’t have the mental stamina to write, but you can make phone calls. Or sometimes you don’t feel like talking to people but you are able to do reading or internet research for project X or Y or Z. They offer those tricks that help you stay focused so that you can unplug and be Dad or Son or Husband when you’re not at work.

